Words carry a weight greater than any physical blow anyone could ever deliver. Of all forms of abuse, emotional and psychological abuse cause the greatest damage, because they involve painful words reaching down into the deepest part of our souls and crushing us in ways we cannot articulate.
What’s the most painful thing anyone ever said to you? Do you remember how that felt? Do you think it shaped you into the person you are becoming? On the flip side, do you recall something you said to someone that hurt them?
Most people can attest to feeling the pain of a careless word thrown in their direction. And it’s even worse if it comes from a person whom you trust or who is important in your life such as a parent, a family member, a close friend or even an authority figure. Words that undermine, that are meant to hurt, that are designed to cause you to doubt your self-worth…those are indeed the worst.
In a world where we have no control over what anyone else chooses to do, or say in this matter, it is important that we take charge of guarding our space. Be mindful of the kind of people you let into your space. Be mindful of the kind of people you allow to speak into your life. Granted, sometimes you cannot control the situation, but in as far as you can, stay away from negative people and words.
Surround yourself with people whom you feel safe with, who never make you question their intentions. Also, be careful with how you speak to people. The golden rule being, do unto others as you’d like them to do unto you. Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself, “Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?” If it fails one of these tests, then you probably don’t need to be saying it.
If you commit to having a positive space and attitude, then you will attract people who share the same core beliefs. So go ahead and curate a negative-free zone for the sake of your mental health, and that of those around you.
